A Note to My Mom and All Moms in the Adjustment Phase from Sean (Montana)

I knew it wouldn't be easy, I knew it wouldn't be one of those Hollywood moments where we all come together and hug like we are some sort of Brady Bunch family. I knew it wouldn't be easy for me, but most of all I knew it wouldn't be easy for you. Initially, we all took some space, some other members of the family are still sitting in that space; but that's not the point. You came around. A part of me always told myself that I wouldn't expect or need you too, but I am glad you did.

There will be hurdles to come, but with time those adjustments will come too. We can finally openly talk about the guy I have been dating, although me making remarks about the cute guy across the restaurant still catch you off guard every now and then; you quickly take a step back and as if processing, understand and reiterate in your head that this is my son, and I love him and who he is...and then we continue on. You (and little sis) are my biggest allies and friends, almost like a shield against the rest of our family dynamics. Without you I am certain I would make it just fine in this journey they cynically call life, but I can assure you the road would be much more lonely.

To all you moms out there in the adjustment phase. This seems counter-logical, but take a bit of time to adjust. Your understanding and acceptance through a logical progression of thought is much more beneficial to your relationship than a fake exterior of acceptance. To aid you, remember they are your kid, being gay (or for that matter, straight) does not fully define who they are but is merely a part of that descriptor. They are the same kid whom you loved sending off to kindergarden that first time, you still love them now just the same. Believe me, that's the love they need now.